I Give Up
After being dicked around all morning by my OBs office, I give up. No one is going to see me, apparently. After waiting 2 hours for my OB’s office to call me back, I called the RE. They said that there’s an 85 – 90% chance it’s nothing, it might be a threatened miscarriage, or it’s possible that we’re losing a twin. They said they would do an ultrasound, but their machine isn’t as good as the OB’s and they wouldn’t see much, so they told me to call my OB to have an the ultrasound.
I called the OB back and said my RE said to call and have an ultrasound and I got put on eternal hold. When the receptionist came back, she said the nurse would call me back. More waiting.
The nurse called me back not 2 minutes later and said Dr. C would see me tomorrow. Too bad I don’t see Dr. C and have no idea who Dr. C is. I asked her who Dr. C is and she told me she had the wrong chart in front of her. Nice.
I told her the my RE said I should have an ultrasound and to have my OB do it because of better equipment and she told me no. She said I had to wait a week and a half for an ultrasound, that there was nothing to see at this point.
I happen to know that while we wouldn’t see a heartbeat, we could see the gestational sac and could also see where it’s located. But apparently, no one gives a shit about that, or my peace of mind.
She rambled on about relaxing — gee, maybe I would if someone would give a rat’s ass about what I am going through at the moment — and I can be seen in a week and a half and there’s really nothing they can do right now. I ended up pretty much* hanging up on her. I was pissed that she wouldn’t listen to me, didn’t care about MY peace of mind or the fact that my RE said I should have an ultrasound.
I called the RE back and told them what happened. They again reassured me brown blood is old, it’s probably nothing, take it easy, etc. They also asked who my OB was and were shocked that my OB wouldn’t see me. I told them my OB’s name and the nurse I spoke to and the RE’s nurse said she would call them to have them see me. I told her if they are just going to have me in to tell me the same stuff — “Take it easy” — there was no need. If no one will DO anything to reassure me, I wanted no part of it. I don’t need a pat on the head and told to come back in week and a half.
She said she wanted to call anyhow, I think she was mad that they poo-pooed me all morning. Whatever. I’m tired of fighting with them and no one caring. I realize if I am going to lose a baby or babies there’s nothing to be done. But they need to realize that after being through so much to get to this point, the least they could do is let me see the baby/babies or check my blood levels or something. It seems so cruel to just leave me here to see what happens, but what choice do I have? I’ve talked to everyone they’d let me talk to and no one wants to help me or see me, so I guess that’s it.
* I added that I “pretty much” hung up on her because Skip thought i meant I just slammed down the phone or something. I just cut her off and said, “Ok, hanks” and hung up when she just kept telling me to “relax” and I could come in in a week and a half. So now, Skip, it wasn’t a slam-down-the-phone hang up, just more of a I’ve-had-enough-good-day hang up.
IM shocked that nobody is willing to do anything!
WOW! I would be at the office crying and demanding an Ultrasound. They dont sound like very accomodating people after everything you have been through. Can you switch OB’s?
I really hope its nothing and you get peace of mind,
You could go and sit in their office until they see you.
Oh, Sommer! LOTS of prayers coming your way right now! I am afraid you have a very uncompassionate OB office, and I am so sorry they are treating you this way. (((((hugs))))))
I’m so frustrated for you! I can’t believe your RE doesn’t have better equipment! They should be able to do eary U/S I wasn’t even released to my OB until after the first trimester.
I hope the RE nurse gets someone at the OB to do something!
I was thinking the same thing. Go there, and sit until they’ll see you.
As it is, is there a chance you can switch OB’s? Given how they’ve treated you, I don’t think I could stomach them for the next nine months.
I’m so sorry, Sommer. What a frightening situation. I hope you get some answers soon.
Sommer, I realize that this is next to impossible to do, but try to relax. My best friend bled bright red gushes “down to her knees” As she says…and her baby is 5-years-old now.
Bleeding does not always signal MC. You are in my prayers.
Oh Sommer! How cruel can the OB’s office be? I had an u/s at 6 weeks and we saw a heartbeat! I hope that your RE calls the OB and gives them supreme heck.
I hope that everything goes ok! Big hugs and prayers to you and your babies!! Lots of sticky vibes!
Praying hard for you, hun!
I’m so sorry you are being treated so unfair by the OB. I hope someone pulls their head outta their ass soon and does something for you!
That whole situation just ticks me off! :-( I can imagine your feelings. I agree with PP – any chance you can get a new OB? I would without any hesitation after such treatment! (((Hugs))) Many, many prayers going up for you!
Oh Sommer I am praying so very hard for you right now. I can’t believe that your OB office is so pigheaded! WTF should they care…it isn’t like they won’t get paid for doing it. Big huge hugs sweetie. I hope it’s just normal spotting.
Could you ask your RE for a referral to an imaging center? I hope it’s nothing. I’d be angry too!
{{{HUGS}}}} that completely SUX about your OB office!! I’m glad your RE office is sticking up for you though…
BTW I had an early u/s with DD#1 (about 5 weeks 3 days) due to bleeding and we DID see a heart beat….
I’ll be thinking of you….I hope it IS nothing to worry about.
Suz
SOMMER!! (((((HUGS))))))
I dont knw what to say- excpet we are ALL pulling for you! and your baby(IES)
Katya
OMG SOMMER!!! What a day! I would be so annoyed! :( I can’t believe she told you to just relax! If I had a nickel for everytime someone has told me that was what was keeping us from conceiving #2, blah, blah, blah. Anyway, I am so sorry that you got the run around today, when you deserve answers and reassurance, especially after everything you have been through TTC#2! As an aside, I have heard about the vanishing twin thing, so unforunately that could be a possibility too, but I am hoping that everything is fine and that they are still just adjusting and settling in! Hang in there! Take care, Kathy :)
Sommer, OMG….I would be livid!!! There is no reason that they should not have brought you in today. Don’t they know what you’ve been through?? It makes me wonder since the nurse had the wrong file in front of her.
Don’t wait a week. Seriously. I would call or just go in tomorrow and demand to have an u/s done. These are your babies and you need this peace of mind. If they refuse again, tell them that you are on your way to pick up your file and go to another OB. That’s what I would do.
I’m so sorry that you are going through this. I’m sure it’s nothing but you need that peace of mind.
Lots of hugs- but try, try, try to stay positive.
With Victoria I had countless bleeding episodes- one that lasted 3 days and was heavy enough to have to wear a pad for that amount of time… It was labelled a threatened miscarriage.
It wasn’t until later in the 2nd trimester that we discovered I had placenta previa.
While not great, it was managable, just tracked closely- it moved out of the way at the last minute- had a normal vaginal birth and DD is here safe and sound.
Keep thinking positive… there are lots of explanations other than the worst {{hug}}
I’m sorry that nobody will give you an earlier ultrasound though :( I did get one with DD around 7 weeks because of the first bleeding episode… but that was further along and we could see her heartbeat at that point
>> OMG! I am absolutely ASTOUNDED at your ob/gyn office! I hate that you are being made to wait and see what is happening. That is so cruel! Obviously they have NO idea what is like to be in your current position after waiting and waiting…
If they did know, they would be more sensitive and proactive. They need to be flogged!!!
Love,
Laura
I’m so sorry! That’s just nuts. I was just under 6w when I was spotting with Dakota and my OB did an u/s because she knew I’d had a m/c and was nervous about it. There’s no reason they can’t do one! I hope you get some sort of resolution soon so you CAN relax.
I too would switch OB’s if I could.
Sommer,
With my first two boys I spotted.
I didn’t have an established OB either time, so I went to the ER, where they promptly gave me an u/s each time.
Is that a possibility for you?
{hug} Sommer! I’m praying for you and your little ones!
Oh Sommer! Gentle (((HUGS))) I am praying for you and your baby/babies!
Rochelle
What was your most recent progesterone level? Are you on pio shots? What dose?
Oh Sommer!! first, go to the ER, see if they will give you the u/s. Then, when you see your 2 tiny little babies happy as can be, FIND A NEW OB!!! Relax?? Wait it out?? Have they never been pg, or been thru IVF, or lost a baby? Relax and Wait it out are no longer in your vocabulary!!
I hope the brown goes away!
Jennifer
Amen. Get it done. You can do it.
Sommer, I am so sorry your OB is being an ass. :(