Comments on: I Would Die for That http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/ The ramblings of a mom of three. Sat, 12 Nov 2011 19:09:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Catherine http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1077 Catherine Fri, 06 Jul 2007 19:21:14 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1077 Everything you just wrote--->thank you! You've just summed up what I've been feeling lately. The other day at the RE's there was a little girl with her mom and I truly hope that the couples waiting saw it as hope. If not, why even be there. It's what we all aspire to have, even if for some, it means getting it a different way. I have 2 children who I watch over and 4 who watch over me. Does that mean I shouldn't or don't have a right to want more children. It really is a double edge sword. I don't fit in with my TTC/preggo friends and I don't really fit in with my infertile friends. I scare the ttc/preggos and anger the IF's. It would be great if we could all be part of one sisterhood regardless of the circumstances that brought us there. I have that video on my blog and am so glad it is gaining attention. Everything you just wrote—>thank you! You’ve just summed up what I’ve been feeling lately. The other day at the RE’s there was a little girl with her mom and I truly hope that the couples waiting saw it as hope. If not, why even be there. It’s what we all aspire to have, even if for some, it means getting it a different way.

I have 2 children who I watch over and 4 who watch over me. Does that mean I shouldn’t or don’t have a right to want more children. It really is a double edge sword. I don’t fit in with my TTC/preggo friends and I don’t really fit in with my infertile friends. I scare the ttc/preggos and anger the IF’s.

It would be great if we could all be part of one sisterhood regardless of the circumstances that brought us there.

I have that video on my blog and am so glad it is gaining attention.

]]> By: Ellen (MEZ) http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1050 Ellen (MEZ) Tue, 03 Jul 2007 18:20:09 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1050 Bravo! I also felt hope on seeing babies prior to Zoe's conception. She did it for them, she can make it happen for us . . . And now, as I am faced with dragging Zoe to the RE one more time on Thursday for an injectible class, I see this thread. Sigh. Bravo! I also felt hope on seeing babies prior to Zoe’s conception. She did it for them, she can make it happen for us . . .

And now, as I am faced with dragging Zoe to the RE one more time on Thursday for an injectible class, I see this thread.

Sigh.

]]> By: AMYRB http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1049 AMYRB Mon, 02 Jul 2007 16:45:15 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1049 Sommer, You are awesome! Thank you for mentioning the pain of those who can get pregnant but, for whatever reason, are unable to maintain a pregnancy. After our third loss, DH and I began seeing the RE for the treatment of recurrent miscarriage. Our insurance company informed us that they would not cover the visits because we did not meet their definition of an infertile couple. I was irate! Two-and-a-half years of TTC with no living baby should justify our trips to the RE, right? Evidently not. Fortunately, the RE's office worked things out with the insurance company, but talk about adding salt to my wound! Not being able to have a baby is PAINFUL, regardless of the circumstances. Sommer,

You are awesome! Thank you for mentioning the pain of those who can get pregnant but, for whatever reason, are unable to maintain a pregnancy. After our third loss, DH and I began seeing the RE for the treatment of recurrent miscarriage. Our insurance company informed us that they would not cover the visits because we did not meet their definition of an infertile couple. I was irate! Two-and-a-half years of TTC with no living baby should justify our trips to the RE, right? Evidently not. Fortunately, the RE’s office worked things out with the insurance company, but talk about adding salt to my wound! Not being able to have a baby is PAINFUL, regardless of the circumstances.

]]> By: Christina http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1047 Christina Sat, 30 Jun 2007 18:10:39 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1047 I think this was well written. When we were ttc #3 after getting pregnant the first two times very easily, I got a glimpse into the world of those struggling with infertility. We were fortunate to be able to get pregnant after 18 months and fertility meds, but I understand the pain you feel when going through infertility, whether it be the first or tenth time. This is what I told those who didn't understand how I could hurt when I was lucky enough to have two healthy children. I compared it to eyesight (not the same thing at all, but it worked)-- Is it harder to be born blind and never experience the sights of the world and the gift of vision or to have experienced all there is to see and then have that gift taken away from you, and never be able to see again? That seemed to help some better understand that no matter what stage your family is, infertility affects everyone. Good luck to you! Christina I think this was well written.

When we were ttc #3 after getting pregnant the first two times very easily, I got a glimpse into the world of those struggling with infertility. We were fortunate to be able to get pregnant after 18 months and fertility meds, but I understand the pain you feel when going through infertility, whether it be the first or tenth time.

This is what I told those who didn’t understand how I could hurt when I was lucky enough to have two healthy children. I compared it to eyesight (not the same thing at all, but it worked)– Is it harder to be born blind and never experience the sights of the world and the gift of vision or to have experienced all there is to see and then have that gift taken away from you, and never be able to see again?

That seemed to help some better understand that no matter what stage your family is, infertility affects everyone.

Good luck to you!
Christina

]]> By: stacey (sassymommy) http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1046 stacey (sassymommy) Wed, 27 Jun 2007 19:59:12 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1046 Sommer, I hope you dont mind but I quoted part of your blog on a message board I help run. I think you explained secondary infertility PERFECTLY...I have never heard someone explain it like that. Just hit close to home because I went through the same when we ttc #2 Sommer, I hope you dont mind but I quoted part of your blog on a message board I help run. I think you explained secondary infertility PERFECTLY…I have never heard someone explain it like that.
Just hit close to home because I went through the same when we ttc #2

]]> By: Amy Aronowitz http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1045 Amy Aronowitz Wed, 27 Jun 2007 17:26:14 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1045 Nicely put. I like the Paris analogy, a very tangible explination. Nicely put. I like the Paris analogy, a very tangible explination.

]]> By: Denise http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1042 Denise Wed, 27 Jun 2007 00:27:38 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1042 Sommer- I want to thank you for writing what you did- I think that really untill you walk in "our" shoes, you dont understand infertility fully- I know I didnt- I thought after my first m/c it was just a one time thing- then I lost my son-- I was suddenly in another world, thrown there by God's hand for what ever reason- I cant change it, I cant go back- all I can do is move forward try my best to be happy for everyone I see with children, be thankfull those that have gone through infertility and had success and share their story so I can know that in the future I have hope also-- does that make sense? It doesnt matter where I see a child, infant at I hurt no matter what-- but I know that they are God's gift and maybe just maybe one day it will be my turn. God bless you and everone that reads your board- you are a true example of strength and hope. I cant wait to see your babies. Thank you also for allowing so many people to share this great joy with you :-) Denise Sommer- I want to thank you for writing what you did- I think that really untill you walk in “our” shoes, you dont understand infertility fully- I know I didnt- I thought after my first m/c it was just a one time thing- then I lost my son– I was suddenly in another world, thrown there by God’s hand for what ever reason- I cant change it, I cant go back- all I can do is move forward try my best to be happy for everyone I see with children, be thankfull those that have gone through infertility and had success and share their story so I can know that in the future I have hope also– does that make sense?

It doesnt matter where I see a child, infant at I hurt no matter what– but I know that they are God’s gift and maybe just maybe one day it will be my turn.

God bless you and everone that reads your board- you are a true example of strength and hope. I cant wait to see your babies.

Thank you also for allowing so many people to share this great joy with you :-)

Denise

]]> By: Natalie http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1041 Natalie Wed, 27 Jun 2007 00:24:50 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1041 Wow, what a powerful song! We struggled with infertility for 3 years before having our precious son and I can empathize with the emotions she sings about. Wow, what a powerful song! We struggled with infertility for 3 years before having our precious son and I can empathize with the emotions she sings about.

]]> By: Mary Ann http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1040 Mary Ann Wed, 27 Jun 2007 00:05:33 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1040 Very well put. I hope that we ladies can start to understand each other a little better in this journey. Posts like this are a firm step in that direction. Very well put. I hope that we ladies can start to understand each other a little better in this journey. Posts like this are a firm step in that direction.

]]> By: Yolanda http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/comment-page-1/#comment-1039 Yolanda Tue, 26 Jun 2007 18:59:41 +0000 http://sommer.cronck.com/2007/06/25/i-would-die-for-that/#comment-1039 Struggling with primary IF and many other issues, I have learned that: When we are struggling with something, it is NOT "the situation" what really bothers and affects us.... it is MUCH more the way we react to it what really does!!! I believe it doesn't matter if it's primary or secondary IF, it hurts!!!... And for me, even though it is not easy, I prefer to see in every child, IN EVERY PLACE I GO, a bright promise of HOPE... Hopefully someday will be my turn! :) Struggling with primary IF and many other issues, I have learned that:
When we are struggling with something,
it is NOT “the situation” what really bothers and affects us….
it is MUCH more the way we react to it what really does!!!

I believe it doesn’t matter if it’s primary or secondary IF, it hurts!!!… And for me, even though it is not easy, I prefer to see in every child, IN EVERY PLACE I GO, a bright promise of HOPE… Hopefully someday will be my turn! :)

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