Tonight we spent an evening with friends of ours who are moving to Texas next week. It’s the last time we will see them until possibly Christmas, as they said they will be coming back for a family birthday. We’ve known them for a little over two years now, and our daughters have known each other longer as they were in day care together.
This whole time I have been worried about how Calista will handle J moving so far away, but tonight it hit me that I am losing a friend, too. We had a nice evening and as we were hugging goodbye, I started getting all teary and then cried the whole way home.
I have a lot of friends. Unfortunately, none of them live anywhere near me. I have (had) just two local friends that I actually did things with and one has been so busy with other things in her life that I haven’t seen or even talked to her in months, and now C is moving to Texas. It’s a pretty lonely feeling.
I don’t know where to go from here. Making friends as an adult is so hard! I am in the Mothers of Multiples club and had made one friend there that I was seeing outside of club activities, but then she got busy and I haven’t seen her since… I guess before the boys were born because she’s never even met the boys. The MOM meetings are just once a month, so I feel like it will be a while before I might make a true friendship out of it.
I have two neighbors whom I really like — P and T. P’s daughter is Calista’s age, but when we tried to get them together, they fought — bad! Now that they are older, they seem to play better together, but it seems P is like me and doesn’t initiate much. And when neither of us initiates, well, we don’t get together much. I am trying to do better though — I did invite them over a week or two ago and we had a really nice time. I have to try to reach out more.
Same with T… she’s super sweet and lives just a few houses down, but I never know what kind of things we might be able to do. It’s almost like trying to get a date or something!
I just need to suck it up and try to get closer to some of my acquaintances or I’m going to be one lonely girl soon.
Pity-Party over!
Sorry your friends are moving! :( It is tough making friends as an adult. My meetup.com group is my life saver!
I feel you! I’ve been in the same area for almost 9 years now and have very few friends here. Nearly every person whom I consider a friend lives back in my hometown, people I grew up with. I agree, making friends as an adult is very difficult – I thought having kids would make it easier to make mommy-friends, but so far that hasn’t been the case. Although, I have to admit that I haven’t made a lot of effort either. Lol!
I feel for you. We’ve moved with DH’s company 4 times in seven years. Not a good way to maintain friendships. Sending squeezes. When we moved from KY the first time, I cried all the way to Bowling Green.
I’m with all of you! My childhood and college friends are all over the country, and we live in a town with very few peers, so it’s tough making friends. And I’m pretty friendly and outgoing! We were sad too when the only other couple we were friends with moved to North Carolina (we’re in California).